Back when things were simpler

Do you ever wonder how simple things used to be?  Or how awesome it would be to just sleep one day until 8:30 am?

Today an old friend asked me if I would be dancing at the Cheerleader Reunion.  My NFL days seem like yesterday and an eternity away all at the same time.  Between that and having a moment last night, ya know around 6:00 when everybody needs something and a 4, 2 and 1 year old are getting tired.  I just wanted a night to myself.  That's not a large request right?

Back in 2005 where the world revolved around my hubby and me.  Not laundry, preschool, swimming lessons, teaching right/wrong, sleepless nights making sure the kids are still breathing, dinner preparation, lunch packing, buying new clothes so the kids are not in high waters, reward charts, poopy swim diapers, relentless stain scrubbing, the never-ending To Do list, work lists a mile long, you get the gist.

I used to oversee 7 women's health clubs and thought that along with practice, charity events, certifying instructors in TurboKick and running the household of 2 people was a lot.  My oh my how things change.  P.S.  What did we do on Saturday mornings before kids???

I just wanted a night to myself.  So the hubby put the kids to bed and I did nothing.  I mean nothing but the Bachelor Pad and me.  I didn't even read my Bible Study which I just promised myself JUST last week I would do every night.  Already slipping on that:)

But the thing is, when I evaluate my life now and my life in 2005 I could not be happier.  We had kids to enrich our lives and they do that everyday.

In Bible Study I learned we don't just spend time with our kids, but we need to make sure we are impacting them everyday.  So here's to keeping that in mind every time I have a thought of "when life was easier".  

...On that note, a prayer for my sister-in-law battling cancer would be appreciated from anybody that prays!


  1. Praying, Lindsay. We just lost my sister-in-law to cancer 3 weeks ago, so my heart aches for you. It was one of the hardest things I've been through (especially after losing my grandma and my mother-in-law also to cancer in the last 10 years). I hate cancer. :(

    We also went through our own infertility journey, so I relate so closely with many of the things you have been through!

  2. The more I know about you, the more I want to hug you! I stumbled across your DVDs on Amazon when I was 2 months post-baby#3. Now that little baby girl is 1 and I'm back to my pre-pregnancy weight. Your bootcamp video is great - love the way I can mix/match and do as little or as much as I have time for.
    Totally get your desire to commit to Bible study, but how often it gets squeezed out. Just yesterday I tried to read while the kids napped and of course everyone woke up early. I asked them to play quietly and not wake their sister ... well, you can guess what happened. I threw a fit over no time to study my Bible - fairly ironic. Geesh.
    What DID we do before kids? I'll never know.
    Praying your sister-in-law beats it. Seems like so many are fighting diseases.
    Thanks for sharing.

  3. Lindsay, I pray and am praying for so many that are battling cancer. I would love to pray for your sister-in-law!

    I will be starting my bible study in a couple of weeks and am praying and hoping I can keep up with it this year as well. I know how you feel about when times were easier. I also know that at those times I was really desiring a family one day, so I dont want to look back at times when they were easier or just a different type of easy. With two small kiddos and taking care of them and the household and myself.... hmmm.. how to do. I just try to keep on, keeping on! I want to impact their lives as well and making the important things important and not get tripped up by what I can make important that is not! whoaa, sorry so long. Thank you for keeping it real and be an inspiration to me and others!:)

  4. I'm praying for u...I l lost my sister 3 months ago. Still having a hard time. I also just had a baby girl, she is now 5 months. I'm in this bitter funk I just can't shake. I feel alone n disgusted w/ myself. B/c I can't lose weight, I'm stuck home all the time along w/ many stress. I came across ur video n it gave me a little hope. I need positive ppl in my life right now. I would really appreciate ur help.

  5. Oh so true! Before I had kids, I thought I was soooo busy! I don't think I truly enjoyed that time enough :)

    But, like you said, I wouldn't trade my life now for anything....3 littles (5 & under) 'em to pieces. Just the other day, when in my thoughts, I was comparing myself to other moms I know.....I was thinking, my life is so much harder because.....I have 3 kids, they are closer together in age than theirs, my hubby works long hrs, blah, blah...the Lord stopped me. The way I was complaining was treating his blessings (my kids) like a burden.....that hit me smack between the eyes! Funny how the Lord can do that :) Just thought I would share cuz I feel the same way as you. And I'm with you on the Bible fact, should be doing mine now instead of the computer! Thanks for keeping it real :)

  6. Forgot to add in all that....praying for your SIL!!

  7. Reading your blog today really was ironic and brought some tears to my eyes. I am 26 years old and have two little girls. My oldest will be 3 in November and my baby is just 3 months. I'm very religious, and we believe that if a mother can she should be in the home with her kids. Well, my whole life I geared up for that thinking being at home with my kids would be all I could ever want. And of course what I thought as a teenager/youth was way different then my life now. I yearn for academic stimulation--to feel the power of learning and being out in the work place with intelligent people. My husband and I didn't have a whole lot of time to ourselves because baby number one was a surprise (born only 19 months after we got married), so I find myself dreaming of what life would be if "the baby phase" had been delayed. I go back and forth. One day I think to myself "buck up! your kids are such a blessing." and the next day I think, "When will I get 'my' life back?" It's such a challenge, and sometimes thinking that my husband will never understand the sacrifices I've made is the hardest part. I guess what I'm trying to say is I SO GET IT!

    Oh and I pray all of the time. My dad was diagnosed in December of 2010 with stage 4 prostate cancer. It changes your world when it happens to someone you're close to and love so much. Thanks for sharing your life with us.

  8. I always thought I would want to stay at home with my kids, and I am blessed to have that option. I started MIF before we had kids and had it all set up to run itself, but I found I love the outlet of working and helping others. But it took me a long time to find that balance, 4 years and still don't have it totally figured out:) But its all about the journey right? So anonymous, I totally get how you feel.

  9. Leigh-Anne, I pull that "my kids are so close in age and tougher" crap all the time in my head. And you are so right, the Lord speaks when we need it!

  10. Sotharin, I wish I could reach out and touch you! What a rough time in your life. If I might ask, do you think you have PostPartum Depression with all that has gone on in your life in the last 3-5 months? I think you should Call your nurse and talk to her.

    The weight will come off, just try to do something everyday for your health and be consistent. Do you ahve any stroller classes or mom/baby classes in your area?

    1. Hi Lindsay...I thought about talking to my doc about it, but I don't want them to say I'm unfit. It's just tough right now b/c I just moved to NJ where I don't want to be n soon moving to TN. I feel alone n my fam/friends just don't understand what I'm going through. So that's why I reached out to mom blogs ect..topical asian family just bash u about ur weight all the time. It's annoying! That doesn't help me any. Feels like I'm always surrounded by negative ppl everywhere I go.

      I don't want to get to personal on here for everyone to see, so how can I message u privately? Btw thk u for taken the time to respond I didn't think u would being s tho ur busy.

  11. Thank you all for your prayers!

    Heather will say a prayer for your family. And I hope the infertility journey is now a family journey!

    Rochelle, I started a 2-year Bible Read on Sept 1st. Here is to keeping to it:)

  12. Had an "ah ha" moment today when I talked to a fellow mother about her still born son born in 2011. I just stepped back from it all and realized that even though my children bring me grief and craziness on occasion (a lot of occasions)they are more precious then we can ever fathom. Tonight I'm a mother full of gratitude. But of course it's normal to get down. Everybody does.

  13. Sotharin, you most absolutely can shoot an email to the and Jess will make sure I get the email.

    Aha moments always put you back in perspective! I get mad at myself often for any complaining after watching my SIL battle cancer for the last year. Just gotta chalk it up to being human and working on a 10 out of 10 on te mom scale today:)